Dear Christian,
This is a revelation from God, the maker of all things, giver of good gifts:
A very personal testimony in which I am all the more eager to share, by the leading of God the Holy Spirit, to a rising generation whose identity is in Christ Jesus, the Youth.
Concerning a topic which is of crucial importance at our age, a topic that’s always been shared yet often understood. Indeed a topic of relevance yet our knowledge of it so insignificant.
It’s all about marrying the right person and when!
It took me almost my entire youthful years to ever realize that despite my past relationships with girls, it’s only now that I am in love with one. It is my honest experience that it’s never easy when you are committed with a girl in a relationship when in fact it is not God’s idea and will. It will only turn to ruin and consequently after all things have been said and done, you will realize that you have never really come to a point of loving the person. The result is such a devastating one, heartbreak!
But this does not guarantee that when you have found a person to marry, it will be all easy. I tell you, it’s quite the opposite. Yes, I’ve found a woman to marry and it’s not that important to tell you now how sure I am, you’ll know it yourself when you find one. But the more pressing question is, “Is she the right one?”
I’ve struggled a lot finding the right path that would lead me to an answer that I heartily seek. However, God’s response seems so elusive until I burst out in total humility crying out, ‘Father, if she is not the right woman for me, would you take away my feelings for her!’
It is as if a sound piercing through thin air that motioned the Lord to speak these words, straight from a Father’s heart… ‘My son, I know what you are feeling and what you’re going through. Remember, you are asking me of a precious possession, a treasured one. She is a real beauty to me and I cherish my moments with her.’
I startled for a moment as I reach for my pen, carefully re-echoing what He’s just spoken. I am amazed that the Father really knows my heart and my thoughts and I am somewhat surprised of His response, saying, “You are asking Me of a precious possession, a treasured one. She is a real beauty to me and I cherish my moments with her.”
I’ve come to realize that all I was asking about is an answer most of us wanted to know, “Lord, is she the one? If not then why will I have to bear these feelings for her, would you take these away?” But God never cease to surprise me, He’s about to teach me a lesson.
Someone said, “You only ask for the right person to marry when you are responsible enough for it.” My question is one of inquiry, ‘Lord, is she the right one?’ God’s response was, ‘My son, you are asking Me…’ God is serious with this matter and it goes on to say that when you inquire, you must have the heart to acquire what you inquire. It sounds like the saying, ‘Why shop when you won’t buy?’
Then God goes on to itemize His sentiments saying, ‘Son, I know your heart and your thoughts, they are pure. Now, realize this, you are asking Me my precious possession, my treasured one and I’ll be missing her undivided devotion to me if I’ll give her to you. She’ll be spending her time with you instead with me; she’ll be thinking of you instead of me; she’ll be caring more when in me she’s care free; she’ll be in fear more when in me she can be fearless; she’ll be in need a lot while in me she has everything. My son if you really love her, ponder upon these things.’
By the tone of His voice I am ashamed that I’ve come up with these thoughts but because of His gentleness I am convinced that I should listen and hear more.
“Now listen as I speak to you words of affirmation”, it seems to me that God has more to say… “I have seen your desires and have felt your emotions. Yet for one last thing may I ask you these questions…?” I paused for a moment, holding my breath, what would His questions be, I relentlessly thought. Then His voice, softens a bit yet has become sweeter, asked me, “Can I entrust her to your care? “ I was speechless, totally amazed at the simplicity and honesty of His voice. Then He goes to ask, “Will you consider her weaknesses yet will still love her anyway?” At this moment I paused, stand on my feet; I am so occupied of the thought that God is laying down a test of my sincerity to marry the woman I so desire. God wanted to speak more so I listened. Said He, “My son, have you considered her age?” As for me, age does matter, maybe that’s the reason why He asked me about it. As to why age matter to me, I choose not to comment, it’s quite personal. But my point is that He is saying, “Are you willing to sacrifice your ‘standards’ (we all have certain characteristics that we’re looking for in a mate, right?) for her?” I quenched when I heard this, He is getting personal. I allowed Him to ask me more even when some of His tests made me think, ‘will I ever pass?’ Then He said, “Could you be held responsible for her needs?” All of a sudden a lot of concern came flooding by me. Am I responsible enough to meet her needs when I myself barely meet mine? This is a tough one, I said to myself. Then the Lord continued, saying, “Does she own your whole heart?” I could no longer stand at this moment; all I could do was to cry. Then He asked the last one, “Are you willing to wait… even if it takes you your lifetime”. At that moment, I was totally humbled, giving
everything to God, then with a gentle and loving whisper He said, “Son, these things I ask you to consider carefully and having done all, may I ask you… pursue your gift, she is all yours… cause by then when she will love you, she’ll be loving Me too…”
